Kelly’s Korner – ‘How To Avoid A Player’

There are lots of super super great guys in the world. I honestly feel sorry for guys when they are trying to figure out how to impress a girl, especially enough to ask her out.  If you want a real relationship with a REAL guy, I would highly recommend staying away from the guys who use these techniques to impress you.

TALKING BAD ABOUT YOUR BOYFRIEND TO GET YOU TO BREAK UP WITH THEM

Seriously....If you're crazy about your boyfriend, I'm not sure why they think this might be a great idea.  I guess there are those occasions where you have a really great guy friend that is trying to save you from a terrible relationship...but in this case, we're talking about just cheapshots at the person you're with.  Stay away.  Far away.

BRAGGING

If they are trying to tell you how much money they have, how big their arms are, how all the girls in town are chasing them and you're the lucky one he's trying to ask out... I know. It's hard to believe but these guys really exist. (Sorry normal guys....they really do.)  Now I understand that a guy might just be nervous and all this stuff just spills out. Guys...maybe just try some subtle honesty...How about "Hello"....for starters....Can I help you with your books? Maybe open a door...I don't know.  Read the situation and try calming down a little.

STARTING A FIGHT TO SHOW OFF

Need I say more?  Starting a fight to show the girl how tough you are, is kind of...well...dumb.  I actually had this happen once. Wow.   I was so embarrassed I couldn't wait to get home.  The next step was figuring out how I was going to politely not see this person anymore.

BRAGGING ABOUT THE NUMBER OF WOMEN THEY'VE BEEN WITH

I'm not sure what goes through a guys head when he starts the conversation like you are going to be another notch in his bedpost...lucky you.  A great way to get out of this situation?   Walk away.  Or when you get home from this date...make sure he loses your number.

TALKING ABOUT HOW RIPPED HE IS

To be honest, If a guy is super ripped, that's great. Unless that's all he's focused on.  If he's going to be spending all of his time at the gym, and always showing off his muscles wearing t shirts three sizes to small, he's probably not really interested in you...he's more interested in YOU being interested in HIM.  I'd rather find someone that is more on my level...that I can talk to...have fun with...and maybe work out together...Someone that might push you both to get on the healthy track, cause he actually wants to spend some quality time with you.