What Not to Do After a Break Up
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, but there are just some things women (and men) just shouldn’t do after a break up. Here are a few.
Neil Sedaka had it right when he said that breaking up is hard to do. It is and it sucks. Especially when you really liked (or loved) the person you were with. I’ve had more than one that have sent me into an ice cream induced pajama wearing over shopping gossip magazine reading funk.
There are a lot of things that go through your mind when someone tells you it’s over and sometimes the first thing you want to do is get revenge, but that’s the last thing you should do. According to the matchmaking geniuses at eHarmony, don’t do anything vengeful because it’s not going to help you move on. Don’t key their car or prank call them or throw all of their belongings away or try and hook up with their bff.
If your first thought isn’t revenge, sometimes it’s to do something drastic like cut off all your hair or get a tattoo or get something pierced. Again, don’t do this. You could lose your job, you’ll have an ugly tattoo, a hole somewhere God did not intend it to be and on top of that you’ll have a crazy hair cut. If you have to surround yourself with your friends and barricade yourself in your apartment just so you don’t act on any of these urges, so be it.
You’re going to want to call them in the middle of the night and apologize and beg them to take you back. Don’t do that. If you’re rejected, it’s going to wreck you even more. If they agree to take you back for one night only, it’s only going to leave you more confused. Plus a one night stand is just never a very good idea. You’re going to feel guilty and terrible about yourself if you beg.
Whatever you do, do not stalk them on Facebook. It’s just creepy. It’s best to just unfriend them completely. If you can’t do that right away, don’t, but just don’t be clicking through their profile and creeping on their photo albums or their friends.