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Do you really know yourself?  Do you think it's important to know who you are? There's no better way to find out how UNSURE you are, until you have a breakup, or divorce. Suddenly, everything you were living for can be tossed up in the air, and when it falls to the ground, it can be a mess. Now I'm not saying that you're a mess...I'm saying..while you're starting over, and picking up the pieces, sometimes we have trouble figuring out where those pieces really belong. Should they go back into the same place that they were before?

RECOGNIZE WHO YOU REALLY ARE

Many of us wrap ourselves in taking care of those around us, and by doing so, lose who we are, or were, when we started. Now, it's okay that things graduate and change, but sometimes, the positive change doesn't follow for your own needs. These can be reflected through those that live around you, and may change their feelings towards you.

So...find out who you are.  Do you know?

FIND YOUR IDENTITY

Try to write down your thoughts, goals and feelings in a journal at the end of each day. Write about things that trouble or inspire you.  You may start noticing patterns that can give you perspectives that you've not considered before.

WHO YOU ARE IS 'OKAY'

As you start going through this process, you may find that some of the things you've become feel rather awkward and unattractive.  Maybe you figure out that you are demanding, overbearing, and loud.  You may also find out that you are loud about things that matter to you...that you are a great loyal friend, and that you stand up for others when they cannot.  There is no right or wrong way to be....You are who you are...but by knowing your strengths and weaknesses, you can try to improve in those areas that maybe you feel could use some help.

WHAT MATTERS

Start writing down things that matter to you.  Once you've written down everything that matters, start putting them in order of importance to you. You may want to put absolute necessities at the top, then follow with the rest. You may find out that what you didn't really think mattered to you, actually matters a lot, or vice versa.

CHEERS TO YOU

If we were all the same, life would be rather dull.  Other people are attracted to you because of who you are, or are not, and you should move forward, making changes to the things that you desire to change.

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