Kelly’s Korner – Are You With The Right Person

As I'm out here free falling in the land of "dating," a question came to mind. Once you find someone that you want to date, or have been dating for a while, how do you know they are the right person for you? Is it love?  Is it like? Obviously, I made a decision to end my 1 year relationship because I realized that, although being friends is important, I would never be able to be more than "friends". So when you feel the butterflies, and the fireworks, does that mean it's the real thing? Here's where you have to be cautious with your heart! Be careful and think about this list of things to watch out for.

IF YOU CAN'T BE YOURSELF

Do you have to be someone your not to try to impress this person you think you're in love with? Or can you be yourself?  Do they think you are worthy, even when you're not dressed up, and in perfect step all the time?  If not, it's time to think about an exit strategy.

UNHAPPINESS PREVAILS

Do you have fun when you're with this person?  Can you be in the same room and not say a word, but still throw a smile across the floor and be happy? If not, they could be what is causing your unhappiness. This is not good for either of you.

THEY EXHAUST YOU

If you find yourself living their world, always just putting your life off, to spend the afternoon with them, as they do what they do. Now, if you both enjoy the activities that you're participating in...that's one thing..but if you're spending all your time trying to be there for them, and your life is suffering because of it, it may be time to take a good look at this relationship and figure out if it's what you want for the rest of your life.

YOU DON'T WANT TO INTRODUCE THEM TO YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY

If you don't want this person to be introduced to your friends and family, you need to ask yourself, why?  Is it because you've had too many relationships in the past few years, and you want to make sure this is the one before you introduce another person? Or is it because the person does things that bother you that you don't want others to comment on?  If you're just wanting to give it a little time to grow, you're good. If you are embarrassed about them, let them go...and move on!

CAN YOU ENVISION A FUTURE TOGETHER?

If you try to envision things in the future with this person...from simply getting up in the morning and enjoying a sunset and a cup of coffee, to family holidays, or vacations, how does your future look?

Be truthful, be strong. Remember that no one is perfect. Try to embrace your differences, but if you are total opposites, it might be time to think of a different route.