How to Fix a Bad Date
Today being Friday the 13th, if you have a big date lined up, you may want to rethink it. If you’ve had it planned for a while and you’re worried because it’s Friday the 13th it’s going to go poorly, or if it just goes wrong for whatever reason, here are a few ways to salvage a bad date.
You’re going to be nervous, so just admit it and break that tension right away. It will show that you’re honest and you can start from there now, here are a few things to watch out for and what to do about it.
If they’re rude to the server, they are texting and Facebooking and can’t keep their eyes and hands off their phone or they keep interrupting you, just say something. Call them out. Tell them that you’re not used to people doing that and ask them nicely to stop. I’ve had to do that on more than one occasion and sometimes multiple times. It was super frustrating. I asked him if there was something wrong or there was an emergency and he said no. It was just one of his friends. So I asked if he was giving a play by play of the date and he laughed, paused and said no. LIES!
Never, ever bring up hot button issues like abortion, religion, politics or the like because that’s just asking for disaster. If those subjects do come up, politely decline to discuss it, but if they keep asking about it and you happen to disagree, it could open the door for a good discussion, but just remember to keep it respectful and change the subject if they get fired up. I remember I was on a first date just after the 2004 elections and the guy asked me who I voted for and I told him it was none of his business and he wouldn’t leave it alone. I kept trying to change the subject and he wouldn’t stop, so I told him and he went full tilt on me for 15 minutes. We had ordered and the food hadn’t even come yet, but I wiped my mouth, set my napkin on the table, said it was nice to meet him and left. There were a myriad of things that had already gone wrong (he tried to sell me insurance within 10 minutes) so I really didn’t feel bad leaving.
If you aren’t feeling any sparks, try asking the person you’re with about their passions. If that doesn’t work, try and get them to play darts or pool or something. If that doesn’t work but you’re still having fun and aren’t attracted to them, again just be honest and tell them that you feel like you’re just going to be better off as friends.
If none of that works, try Bad Date Rescue.